Chapter 30: Give Birth to a Girl or a Boy
This inexplicable coldness came suddenly. Xu Yingchun just suddenly realized one thing: if a man and a woman still carry unique symbols of each other in their daily small actions half a year after breaking up, then without a doubt, he hasn’t let go of this relationship, at least not in the short term.
Moreover, Xu Yingchun now felt that Chen Fangli seemed to have no intention of letting go of Wang Zhao even after knowing she was married. This was a very dangerous thing that could easily ruin one’s reputation.
Beneath the young man’s calm expression, invisible turbulent waves seemed to surge.
For instance, right now, Chen Fangli had no reaction to Xu Yingchun’s seemingly silly question. His expression remained the same.
“Why do you ask that?” The man tilted his head slightly.
Xu Yingchun pursed her lips and still said, “She’s already married. It’s not a good approach for you to remain entangled like this.”
Chen Fangli smiled imperceptibly, “You seem to think I want to be the third party in their relationship.” He said this with a hint of self-mockery.
Xu Yingchun wasn’t someone easily dismissed. She rarely pursued a matter to its root, “Isn’t that so?”
“You had the bar staff call Wang Zhao earlier, wasn’t that because you wanted her to come find you?” Xu Yingchun looked at the road ahead. At this moment, her mind was unusually clear. “After hearing she got married, you went to find her. Chen Fangli, have you seriously considered that you might not actually still love her, you’re just unwilling to let go?”
“Unwilling to accept that she has someone new, unwilling to accept that she gave up on you, unwilling to accept that she’s doing well now.”
Chen Fangli’s expression remained unchanged, seemingly completely unaffected by Xu Yingchun’s words. His gaze fell vaguely on the windshield, his entire being exuding a sense of jade-like fragility.
They were less than fifteen minutes away from the hospital.
Xu Yingchun continued, “I have a friend who had a five-year relationship before, from freshman year to a year after graduation. At that time, we all thought they would get married eventually. But just a year after graduation, they broke up.
It was very sudden. We were all surprised. I only found out a week later, and by then, that person was already acting very calm, showing no signs of reluctance.
I asked if he regretted it, if they might get back together in the future. He firmly said no, and even took the opportunity to say some bad things about that woman, like how she actually had a bad temper during their relationship, was prone to outbursts, liked to stay up late playing games, and was also very gossipy, habitually talking about topics related to men.
We were all surprised. That woman had always left a good impression on us, you know? We thought she was a very upright person. We couldn’t imagine she was actually like that. We didn’t quite believe it.
And his attitude at that time seemed like all his affection was gone. We asked him why he suddenly decided to break up, as their relationship had always seemed good in our memory. You don’t know how he used to get angry at us if we accidentally said something bad about his girlfriend.”
At this point, Xu Yingchun laughed, “It got to the point where we didn’t dare say anything negative about that woman anymore. But because we all knew her, and she seemed like a decent person in our impression, we never said much. If he hadn’t complained, we wouldn’t have known she was that kind of person.”
Chen Fangli remained quiet, waiting for Xu Yingchun’s next words. The story wasn’t over yet, and Xu Yingchun telling him this story wasn’t without reason. She must be trying to make some point to him.
Xu Yingchun didn’t seem to mind, storytelling was her forte. Firstly, it was to persuade Chen Fangli to let go a bit, and secondly, to divert Chen Fangli’s attention. Since getting in the car, his complexion had been worsening, his entire body slightly hunched, as if in extreme pain.
But this man was tough, not letting a hint of it show on his face.
“Guess what happened?” Xu Yingchun smiled, “Half a year after breaking up, these two got back together.
That woman posted a status on a social media app, writing a sentence that suggested she was dating someone, along with a photo of herself on the beach, showing only her back.”
Xu Yingchun commented, “The photo was quite nice, good figure, tall, you could tell from the back view that she had a pretty face.
This was clearly telling people she wanted to start dating again, and posting it on that kind of social media app, the meaning was very obvious. But very unfortunately, that status was seen by my friend. The damn app has this bad feature where it automatically matches numbers in your contacts and shows them on your homepage, guessing if you know them.
So even if you delete someone as a friend, they can still appear on your homepage. My friend just happened to see that status, and from that moment on, his heart couldn’t settle down. He couldn’t sleep at night and called to bother me, asking about this, saying he wanted to message her to ask if she was single again.
I couldn’t talk him out of it. We friends said he couldn’t do that, it would be too embarrassing. They broke up because that woman wouldn’t reply to his messages, a message sent in the morning would still be unanswered by night, a whole day would pass without a sound.
So he proposed breaking up, and at that time, the feelings were really gone. But half a year later, just because of such a status, his heart seemed to start beating again, and he wanted to find that woman.
He agonized over it all night, and the next morning he still couldn’t resist messaging her, completely ignoring everything we said.
For a period after that, he kept trying to chat with her, clearly wanting to get back together. We didn’t want to say anything, but privately asked if he still liked that person. He couldn’t say clearly whether it was like or not, he just felt very uncomfortable when he saw that status, guessing day and night whether she had a new boyfriend. Just thinking about this possibility made him uncomfortable.
This discomfort made him take the initiative to message her first.
Later, we analyzed it and felt that this might not be love either. In that half year, he lived as usual, happy and not thinking about that woman at all. But when he learned that woman might belong to another man, doing things they used to do together, he felt very uncomfortable.
To a greater extent, that discomfort is called unwillingness to let go. It’s anger at one’s exclusive possession no longer belonging to oneself, anxiety at this sense of loss of control.”
They had arrived at the hospital, parking on the road outside. Xu Yingchun said to the man in the passenger seat, “Chen Fangli, that’s not liking, much less love. It’s just reluctance, unwillingness to let go. That’s not your love, you’re just not used to it. You just can’t bear her leaving, but you’ll get used to this feeling very quickly. Don’t let yourself fall into an awkward situation.”